My sister told me that every parents and every child has to go through the agony, pain and tears of sending their child to school on their first day of school.
My husband and I decided to enroll Kris on a full day playgroup program after she turns 2. This seem like a reasonable age right. We decided that Dec would be a good period since it's year end. There should be quite a few events happening in school that will make her slightly happier and forget her sorrow of "school alone".
2 weeks before the term starts, the parents, us started to get cold feet and wonder whether it's too soon for Kris to start school. Thousands of thoughts ran through our mind. Will she have enough to eat? will she sleep well? Will she be able to get used to school routine?
The dreadful day came and we accompanied Kris on her first day of school. The school only allowed us to stay with her till breakfast hours. Oh gosh, I thought to myself! When Kris saw us leaving after breakfast, she burst out in tears and started to bawl. I was heartbroken.
We fetched her by noon and she burst into tears immediately upon seeing us and need coaxing to pacify her. My little baby.
These ritual went on for a few days and we decided to extend her school hours each day and finally by day 5, she seem to be coping well with full day.
Take away
Do not fear. I think as parents we fear too much whether they will cope well in school and whether they will adapt. Too much fear prevent us from progressing.
Independent. Everyone regardless of age needs to learn how to be independent in different ways. For Kris, her first step is to wean slightly away from mama and papa.
Relax. A little bawling is fine. Do not think that the child is not ready for school. Do leave immediately even though the little one is bawling. The longer you drag your feed, the longer the tears will flow.
Extend school hours gradually. Do not let the child fear school. Increase her school hours bit by bit.
Call the school. If you are worry about the child progress in school, call during rest time to inquire more.
Talk to the child. Ask the child how was school and how well she has been in school. Encouragement is what everyone need.
My husband and I decided to enroll Kris on a full day playgroup program after she turns 2. This seem like a reasonable age right. We decided that Dec would be a good period since it's year end. There should be quite a few events happening in school that will make her slightly happier and forget her sorrow of "school alone".
2 weeks before the term starts, the parents, us started to get cold feet and wonder whether it's too soon for Kris to start school. Thousands of thoughts ran through our mind. Will she have enough to eat? will she sleep well? Will she be able to get used to school routine?
The dreadful day came and we accompanied Kris on her first day of school. The school only allowed us to stay with her till breakfast hours. Oh gosh, I thought to myself! When Kris saw us leaving after breakfast, she burst out in tears and started to bawl. I was heartbroken.
We fetched her by noon and she burst into tears immediately upon seeing us and need coaxing to pacify her. My little baby.
These ritual went on for a few days and we decided to extend her school hours each day and finally by day 5, she seem to be coping well with full day.
Take away
Do not fear. I think as parents we fear too much whether they will cope well in school and whether they will adapt. Too much fear prevent us from progressing.
Independent. Everyone regardless of age needs to learn how to be independent in different ways. For Kris, her first step is to wean slightly away from mama and papa.
Relax. A little bawling is fine. Do not think that the child is not ready for school. Do leave immediately even though the little one is bawling. The longer you drag your feed, the longer the tears will flow.
Extend school hours gradually. Do not let the child fear school. Increase her school hours bit by bit.
Call the school. If you are worry about the child progress in school, call during rest time to inquire more.
Talk to the child. Ask the child how was school and how well she has been in school. Encouragement is what everyone need.
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